At times, the conflict between following your heart and obeying your parents' wishes can be truly challenging. It's great that you're reaching out for guidance in making this decision. Namaskar, I'm Dr Vinay Bajrangi and today I will explain whether it's fine to marry without your parents' wish.
In our culture, we learn to respect our parents and their wishes but what if parents say no to my love. It seems your love for them is causing inner conflict because you don't want to hurt or upset them.
Perhaps they're opposing the marriage out of concern for your lasting happiness with your partner. It's likely your parents genuinely care for you, so take time to reconsider your choice.
If you're sure their resistance stems from their ego, prioritizing your happiness and marrying the person you love is important, even if they object. Make your choice based on fairness and objectivity.
Choosing Partner vs. Parents is a tough choice which may create differences with the parents forever. But as per my experience, your family will eventually come around as love triumphs over ego, hate, and emotions. Still, I believe the void they feel for missing a crucial life milestone may linger. I've witnessed parents who didn't attend their child's wedding but later gazed at the album with distant longing. For you too, secrecy might rob your dream occasion of happiness.
Hence, I suggest investing effort in persuading them. If that fails, consider sharing your decision instead of a secret marriage. Their attendance would be their choice. This demands immense strength, assertiveness, and confidence. They might react poorly initially, but standing firm will show them whether attending or not is their decision. They might even surprise you with an unexpected choice.
Your parents might not always oppose your choice of partner. Depending on your birth chart, specific planetary periods (dashas) or planetary movements (transits) can influence their decision positively. When planets are favourably aligned, their beneficial influence can help you seek your parental consent in marriage. I can assist you in identifying the auspicious periods according to your birth chart when the likelihood of gaining your parents' approval is higher. This insight can guide you in timing your efforts to align with cosmic influences, potentially increasing the chances of a positive outcome in your journey to seek their consent for your relationship.
Should your parents choose your partner? Some say yes, others say no. Let's see what astrology can tell us about who might say what. In astrology, cultural values or "Sanskars" are examined through the second house of the birth chart. This house also indicates whether you'll find family happiness and parental support. If the second house is well-positioned, your parents may support you, even if they initially oppose you. Convincing them becomes possible. Assessing happiness from parents involves considering the positions of the Sun and the Moon. If these are afflicted, differences in thoughts with your parents can arise. Hence, the birth chart offers insight into whether an individual will find happiness within their family or from their parents. This astrological approach provides a framework to understand the potential dynamics between cultural values, familial relationships, and personal happiness.
Opting to marry against your parents' wishes raises questions about financial independence. The financial support from family matters a lot if you don’t earn sufficiently. The 2nd and 11th houses in the birth chart relate to wealth. If these houses show strong monetary potential (dhan yoga), you might sustain your marriage without parental assistance; otherwise, opposing their wishes could be challenging. Marrying with weak financial indicators might lead to disputes with your spouse over time. In such situations, adhering to your parents' choice is advised to prevent potential financial strain. These astrological considerations reflect the connection between your financial stability, relationship choices, and the harmony of your marriage. It underscores the need to balance personal desires with practical circumstances for a stable and harmonious life ahead.
While you conflict with your parents for the sake of your love, it's crucial also to assess whether your partner will provide unwavering support. Consider the possibility that your partner might engage in trivial arguments shortly after marriage. Love may be blind, yet viewing it through an astrological lens is wise. Analyzing your birth charts can offer insights into your prospective married life. Remember, love transforms post-marriage. Ensuring the person you're fighting for is a lifelong compatible partner is essential; otherwise, you risk disappointment. I can assist you in comprehending your compatibility and predicting the potential happiness of your marriage. This consideration highlights the need to combine emotional fervour with practical foresight for a successful and fulfilling lifelong partnership.
I offer a comprehensive online report that can help you determine the viability of marrying against your parents' wishes. This report assesses the wisdom of your decision and even pinpoints potential timings for when your parents might be more open to persuasion. This detailed report will serve as a valuable companion in navigating your journey of love. It provides insights to aid your decision-making, ensuring you're well-informed and equipped to make choices that align with your heart's desires and practical considerations.